If you come across as a normal human being and not an over-sexualized creep during the first conversation, well, then you are already ahead of the curve.
We started talking, then texting, and he told me straight-up that he'd been separated for six months. I would text him something funny to start off the day, and we would spend the majority of the day talking about what made each other tick. We shared the little things, the childhood things, the adult things, the big things.
20 years ago the dating scene was very different than it is today. Now a day’s most people don’t do dinner and movie any more.
Going to a movie is not a good way to get to know someone, and eating dinner together might be too formal for a first date.
One thing is true, though: he was way more to me than just a married man.It's more like "Men are from Mars and these women are from some alternate dimension on Hell's doorstep." To begin with, any woman in this situation is a wounded animal. One responds well to cuddling and affection, the other will rip your guts out. The big question is, what kind of wounded animal is she? The problem here is, she could be either, both or neither all in the same day. The other thing most of these women go through is something I call "The First Ride at Disneyland Syndrome." Think about it. But do you want to keep going on the same ride again and again, never experiencing the others? I was putting the pieces of my newly shattered life back together and the other woman just wasn't a role I was willing to play long-term. He was, after all, juggling a soon-to-be ex-wife with a new lover.