My parents are against dating

People will say bad things and people will say good things. you are absolutely right about being confident in what i'm doing, and i DO believe in what i am doing with him. There really is no way you can know what they will think... Will it tear apart the relationship you believe in?

The more you are confident in YOU, the less the bad stuff affects your decisions. A loving reciprocal relationship is tough to come by. I hope that when i do tell my parents they'll see how much i love him, and how sure i am in our relationship. There is no way on this earth that you can get them to 'like' the idea of you dating a much older guy. Going in and talking with them, you have realize BEFOREHAND that they can say whatever they feel.

The couple's story, which has a happy ending, is the basis for Farr's new memoir, titled “Kissing Outside the Lines: A True Story of Love and Race and Happily Ever After,” published by Seal Press.

She provided a taste of their story in a recent “Modern Love” column for the New York Times.

One factor that still inhibits interracial relationships is a fear that family will react negatively and reject the relationship.

There are a lot of reasons for this fear, including prejudice and racism among your family members, ignorance about other cultures, or a fear of cultural incompatibility.

It’s a species that seems to be multiplying by the second.

“I’m supposed to marry a Korean girl,” he told her.

Upset as she was, Farr remembered the rules imposed by her own Irish-Italian parents, who had once forbidden her from dating anyone who was black or Puerto Rican.

If you are worried about your family's reaction to the news that you are dating someone outside your race, you may want to initiate a conversation to let them know and to reassure them about any concerns they may have.

The type of conversation you have may differ depending on whether you live at home or if you are an independent adult.